“Women are under such constant pressure to be loving and sweet, that the freedom to be themselves is the greatest gift a man can give them. Even if he really doesn’t understand her feelings, the attempt to do so calmly makes her feel powerfully supported.”
John Gray, “Mars & Venus In Touch
As we embark upon another Valentines Day, a day of sharing love and connection, it’s important to look at ways that we can relate more deeply to each other in partnership. Throughout history, women have had to be loving and sweet and have often not found their true voice of authenticity in the thick of supporting others. Many women that I know are questioning themselves deeply to find the freedom to be themselves and to live and speak from a place of true authenticity. How can we live in partnership and support each other’s needs? There is much research that documents the difference in the way men and women listen and speak.
Here are a few questions to inspire your thinking about love and partnership:
Do you feel fully heard in your relationship?
Do you always speak your full truth? If not, why?
Are you clear about what your partner needs?
Do you speak clearly about your needs?
Is there room for more passion and compassion in your relationship? Where? Or how?
How can you contribute to your relationship on this special day, Valentines Day?
If we place our attention on loving deeply, we will love deeply. If we place our attention on listening from the heart, we will hear from the heart.