How to Gain Confidence

Hello everyone,

Do any of you have low self esteem? I personally think we all might feel this way at times. It might be fine to feel this way sometimes; but these thoughts can inhibit your personal and professional growth.

We talked some about this type of personal growth when I posted SELF-CONFIDENCE: How to Improve.
http://globaldialoguecenter.blogs.com/disabilities/2006/04/selfconfidence_.html

Since that discussion we have learned some and maybe some have had challenges and we need to re-focus.

You may have been through and continue to have challenging times that may make positive self esteem seem like an unobtainable goal.

To get the best out of life we need to be confident in our actions.

One way to help with gaining confidence is not to let negative thoughts run through your mind constantly. Soon, you might start to believe these negative thoughts. These thoughts are like a bad habit; they will take root like weeds in a flower garden and spread by themselves. Soon they will choke out the flowers of positive thoughts in your garden of life.

Do not focus on your shortcomings. Focus on your positive attributes. Believe in yourself Just like those negative thoughts growing into reality; these positive thoughts will do the same.

If you do not have confidence now just remember it is not how we start what matters, it is how we finish.

Even if others talk to you negatively, listen to your inner encouraging voice to pursue. Let hurtful and difficult things go so you can move forward. Work on feeling good about yourself. You deserve it!

Some points to remember
• Do not walk into a room feeling insecure. Develop a habit about being positive.

• Be confident in your actions.

• Change starts on the inside. Keep the positive thoughts in and the negative ones out. .

• Wake up with the thought that you are going to have a great day

• You may have been through and continue to have challenging times. Do not ponder on these negatives.

• Do not focus on your shortcomings.

• Keep a positive big vision in your life. You are worth it!

Does anyone else have any tips to help us with low self esteem? Any ideas to have better confidence in our actions? Does anyone have a story they want to share with us that talks about how you may have over come these challenges.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Bill Tipton

Contributing Author
Global Dialogue Center
http://www.globaldialoguecenter.com/

Comments

[Jake Joehl]

Hello Bill and everyone. Bill, these are all great tips to avoid low self-esteem. I'd like to add one more. This I think ties into not letting those pesky negative thoughts take control of you. Focus your efforts on something which you know you're good at, and if there's some other aspect of the topic which you don't know but would like to learn, devote time to it. That's exactly what I'm doing. I have taken a keen interest in computers, specifically the Windows operating system and programming. I have spent the past few weeks doing online research, and trying to learn all I can. I still want to do something about my VR situation, but right now I seem to be the only one who feels that way. So I have taken it upon myself to learn Windows programming. I'm sitting here at my computer typing away, with an XM radio station playing in the background.

[Bill Tipton]

Hi Jake and all,

Jake, I think that focusing on something you know you're good at is a great way to start to grow your self esteem. Performing well on the project you select will aid in giving you more confidence to tackle another one of your goals that might be more difficult, or unfamiliar. Thank you for sharing this excellent strategy to help us start the positive momentum for personal and professional growth. With more successes your self esteem will grow and grow. Soon you can move into areas that are not familiar to you, without much hesitation. As you mentioned when you do move into new areas and tackle these unfamiliar challenges; do not expect to be an expert right away. It takes time and commitment to learn the skills needed to be proficient at the new task you have selected.
Be sure to make this new learning opportunity a pleasant experience and not negative. As Jake talks about; listening to XM radio while learning skills to be more self confident might work for some.

Does anyone else have suggestions or observations on what it takes to build your self esteem and confidence? Any other tips to help us? We look forward to hearing from you.

Bill Tipton
Contributing Author,
Global Dialogue Center
http://www.globaldialoguecenter.com/