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Paul Maurice Martin

Alex, your post makes me wish I could still read - I happen to be in my 15th year of a progressive illness and not only can't physically handle books anymore, but barely have time to try to promote my own, since I'm mostly bedridden now.

Your post has real depth. Letting go is the essence of forgiveness - let the love come on its own, since that can't be forced.

I particularly like how you've put forgiveness in the broader context of self-transcendence.

Alex Pattakos, Ph.D.

Hi Paul,
Thank you so very much for your very kind (and meaningful) comment! I'm sad to hear about your illness and wish you the best. I did visit your web site and know that you are a person of "original faith" and an inspiration! God bless, Alex

Paul Maurice Martin

Hi Alex,

Thank you for your kind words. I seem to be currently addressing this topic on my blog - I think it was reading your post that led me to do that.

The situation I've observed/experienced that's the most difficult when it comes to forgiveness is when a truly disempowered individual - for example, a frail elderly or severely disabled person - is under neglectful or abusive care. It happens frequently, but out of sight and out of mind to society as a whole.

Usually, we think of forgiveness as mentally letting go of a wrong that was done in the past; but when the situation is ongoing, it is very difficult and perhaps sometimes impossible, to live in substantial peace while faced day to day in such an intimate way with the mental unwellness of another.

Dr. Alex Pattakos

Dear Paul,

Thank you for your latest comment. I agree with you about the "out of sight" and "out of mind" problem of neglectful and abusive care of the frail elderly and severely disabled. It is definitely something that has to be addressed.

Insofar as your comment about forgiveness in ongoing situations, I agree that it is very difficult to do. This is not to say, however, that it can not be done, nor is it ever done. The inspiration that comes from people like Viktor Frankl, Nelson Mandela, as well as spiritual and religious leaders, typically underscore that forgiveness can (and does) apply to such ongoing situations too. Again, forgiveness does not mean "forget." At the same time, it is something that can still "free" one from the day-to-day abuse (and even horror) that may come our way. Thanks again for your insightful comments! Alex

Joan landy

It is funny that we spend our lives finding out who we truly are and at the same time knowing we have to let it go as soon as we get the slightest glimpse. Thank you for giving the "soul" a voice.

Joan Landy
Saturday, March 7, 2009

Alex Pattakos

Thank YOU, Joan, for your "soul-full" comment! Alex

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